Waking up every day with a good mindset could probably change your life. Sometimes you wake up with low energy, unmotivated and depressed while the day hasn’t started yet! Affirmations are one method to help you build the life that you want.
Affirmations: Good or Bad?
Affirmations are well known by entrepreneurs, athletes, and coaches. They are a useful tool to stay active and focused the whole day.
Many of us have discovered affirmations through the book “Miracle Morning” written by Hal Elrod or “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. Affirmations are phrases you should repeat every day to stay motivated and positive. You can make your own affirmations or read ready-made ones.
However, Tony Robbins, probably the best coach in the world, doesn’t like this method: What’s the point of saying “there is no weed, there is no weed” when there is weed everywhere! He believes in saying the truth and being honest with ourselves. How should we use affirmations then?
Three Rules for Perfect Affirmations
1) Be thankful
Affirmations will help you keep a positive attitude but you must be honest with yourself. Say the truth no matter what. Don’t repeat to yourself, “I’m weak, I’m poor, I’m in pain” every day though. Be thankful for what you have. Thank god you have a family, you have a roof, you have food on your plate every day and much more.
2) Focus on efforts
Also, remember that you’re never responsible of the results. You must work hard and put efforts even if you’re not rewarded. Hard? I know. I’m sure you’ve felt this in many area in your life: You worked hard and consistently on something and finally the opportunity, the gain came from a place you didn’t expect. God gives no reward to you. You’re not responsible for the results, your job is to put as much efforts as you can and eventually you’ll be rewarded.
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
― Thomas A. Edison
3) Focus on YOUR progress
Finally, the last rule for the perfect affirmation is to not compare yourself to others. Wait, if you have a role model that you imitate, it’s good keep it up. Here I’m talking about the people around you. The people you’re working with, at school or university. You know the ones that revise 5 minutes before the exams and get better grades than you even though you’ve been working for it during a whole week. Focus on your progress. Are you getting better every day? Did you learn something? Are you more skilled than you were?
How to Make Your Own Affirmation
It may be hard at first to find answers but you have to keep on looking for them and force yourself every morning to do so. If you start your day by mentioning all the things you’re thankful for and if you focus on your goals, you’ll be in a good mindset to start your day. Remember be positive, be thankful and focus on your progress.
You can start your affirmation with :
- I’m so grateful for…
- I’m happy that…
- I’m proud to have accomplished…
- I want to be/become…
- I’m the person who…
- I’m a role model for…
Write your affirmations down and repeat them every morning. Some people prefer to recite them throughout the day. Try it and choose what works the best for you.
Example of Ready-made Affirmations
- “I’m truly grateful for the new people, circumstances, and events that are bringing joy into my life” -Rhonda Byrne
- I thank my parents for the kind of life that they have provided me with.
- I have the power to change myself.
- I am eternally grateful for the love I am capable of giving, and for the love, I have yet to receive.
- “I desire knowledge and wisdom.” – Lailah Gifty Akita
Tips to Get the Best Out of Your Affirmations
- Make your own
- Read them often, make it a habit. Write them on a note on your smartphone or your computer and read them during the day.
- Link them to personal events
- Take your time and really feel it. Close your eyes if needed and feel grateful, feel the energy that flows into you.